Michelle's Blog

I'm with you, betrayal is the ultimate disrespect. Happened to me quite recently. Will I forgive? Maybe. Will I forget? NEVER! What I basically do is shun those that betray me; their existance is no longer important to me. You may think this is harsh, but it works fine, does no harm to me or others, and keeps me from an unhealthy obsession. You can move on, forget about those who betray you.

Hey, Michelle. The things you describe can only be resolved by looking within yourself as much as at the situation or the other person. It may sound corny, but you already have the answer, you just need to find it and own it. Be strong, these things have a way of working themselves out, often not in the way we expect. Be well.

Daniel

Hi Michelle - yes, we do not forget a hurt so deep. Forgive? Not as easily done as said. I have had a situation with someone close who really did something that was awful and is now paying the price.

I will not forgive her but I will try to forget about it and go on from there - she will not let it go. I don't think it is a situation that merrits forgiveness - it needs to be put away and continue on in our relationship.

Unfortunately when the other party doesn't continue on it is hurtful all around and a horrid horrid waste of time and life lived.

Depending on the situation you need to figure out whether you want to forgive that person, if you just want to put it behind you, or close the book and go on from there.

Trust - a sacred bond - once it is broken it can not be repaired - no matter what anyone says it is the ultimate sin.

If you still want that person in your life, it needs to be put behind you and start over. As far as trusting again? Hard to say, some trust may come, the doubts will always be there you may have to continue on without it - keep in mind it leaves a very big hole.... Good Luck.

Remember what will be will be. Also, what goes around will always come back around - life is truly a circle. Who do YOU really want in your circle??????

Sorry I missed this post, Michelle. I haven't had much time to spend on the site.
I can see you've received some excellent counsel.....things I would tell you myself(y'all know what I mean!).
If I may add...keep your future focus on yourself.
Our focus determines our reality. The person who forgets is doomed to repeat. However, forgiveness of others, can be a gift to yourself. "Going to any length" means forgiving the person who has injured you the most.....not necessarily taking him back, & sharing your life. I wish you strength in your decision making, and courage as you move forward, whatever you decide.

Thank u all for your opinions. I failed to read my own quote..carefully. I had to be true to myself, and just come to the decision of being able to know that there is just somethings I cannot live with. It was not an easy thing to decide, but in the long run, i have been able to sleep better, eat better, and feel in my heart, no more panic..and pain. Now on to making my life. A brand new start. New is scary but exciting. Thanks again guys :)

Michelle