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To be a victim of a crime is a painful experience, whether it be a crime against property or person. The purpose of this post is to help readers decrease their chances of becoming a victim. There are never any guarantees in life, so the information can only be used as guidelines to increase one's safety and security in a world where the criminal element (enemy) has the desire (to hurt, bully), opportunity (a car or purse to steal) and ability (overpower, intimidate, use of technology or weapons) to inflict harm on innocent, law-abiding citizens.

I want to thank the West Bloomfield police department for having two of their finest men present this information to Easter Seals staff at an inservice entitled, "Service Provider Safety And Security". Thank you, Sgt. Tom Keilman and Officer Rick Trabulsy. I appreciate getting your permission to write this blog post on the Fox 2 website.

What follows is what I learned about personal safety and security as well as some interesting links to self-defense laws, requirements to obtain a concealed pistol permit, pistol free areas and laws against carrying under the influence.

VICTIMIZATION OVERVIEW:

  • The offender has a plan. It includes the desire, opportunity and ability to commit a crime.
  • The desire is connected to the criminal's observations of potential victims. No matter where we go, criminals are observing their potential victims. It could be at the grocery store, where 90% of the shoppers are female, who carry purses. It could be the garbage man or mail man, who can sell our personal information to criminals.
  • The opportunity is related to the criminal making contact with the victim. Approach tactics are used to get close to an intended victim.
  • The stranger approach happens in a moment. The victim does not know the criminal in this scenario. Purse snatchings, muggings or car jackings are some examples. 
  • The casual approach takes time to develop. This could be the "nice" man who meets an unsuspecting female victim on-line, develops her trust by wining and dining her and then robs her blind by stealing her credit cards or something similar.
  • The family approach is related to situations concerning domestic violence. Abuse or neglect of any kind underscores the family approach of the criminal.
  • The ability to commit a crime is connected to the actual confrontation with the victim. To stop the criminal from getting to this part of their plan, a potential victim needs to eliminate the criminal's opportunity. Whoever has the best plan, wins.

DEVELOPING A TACTICAL PRESENTATION:

  • The best defense is a good offense.
  • Be aware of your surroundings.
  • Dress to win.
  • Implement assertive body language by walking with a purpose and making eye contact with strangers. For example, when store employees greet and make eye contact with customers upon entering the store, retail fraud is decreased. 
  • Think two or three steps ahead at all times so the criminal has less of an opportunity to use the element of surprise.
  • Have an inventory of aggressive verbal responses if confronted by a criminal. Yell to draw attention. Use simple words like, "Stop", "Fire", "Get back", "No" or "911". Avoid using the word, "Rape", because bystanders could turn a deaf ear for fear of getting involved in something that doesn't concern them.
  • Trust your intuition or 6th sense when out in public. A denial of potential danger is the greatest enemy of intuition. Be aware!
  • Train to win or have a positive view of escaping potential danger. Have a plan and practice it. Visualize yourself winning against the criminal. Evaluate/adapt your plan as needed.
  • Another key to safety is to take someone with you when going out in public like the shopping mall.

ENEMIES OF THE CRIMINAL:

  • Extended time: A criminal wants to do a crime fast. Locking your doors (car, home) and having an alarm system extends the time needed to commit a crime. This doesn't mean the criminal stops being a criminal. Crime prevention is a fallacy. However, by extending the time needed to commit a crime, the crime is moved somewhere else because the criminal then looks for the opportunity to commit a crime elsewhere.
  • Light: From dusk to dawn, have some kind of lighting turned on in your home. Avoid walking in dark areas on the street. 
  • Noise: Alarms, horns, whistles and yelling all draw attention to the criminal. Drawing attention is something the criminal does not want during the commission of a crime.

DEFENSIVE TACTICS, STRATEGIES AND SKILLS:

  • The goal of a potential victim is to ESCAPE a dangerous situation.
  • It is a personal choice to use a counter attack to defend yourself or not defend yourself, based on the circumstances. You must have confidence in yourself and your abilities if you choose the former.
  • To repeat, the goal is to get away, to escape. If you choose to defend yourself, your counter attack must be quick and vicious.

FACTORS TO CONSIDER IF YOU ARE ASSAULTED:

  • The assailant is probably stronger than you and may have a weapon.
  • The assailant has the advantage of surprise.
  • The assailant has picked the time and location of the attack.
  • The attacker will intimidate with threats of injury or other consequences.
  • Your fear may paralyze your thinking and response.
  • If your attacker is armed with a weapon DO NOT resist, but if it is your life, do what is necessary.
  • If you are confronted by multiple assailants, resist only if absolutely necessary.
  • If an attacker is after property, give it up! Resisting may make the encounter escalate.
  • Avoid being taken to a second crime scene/location.

ESCAPE CONSIDERATIONS AND TACTICS:

  • Run to safety, not away from danger.
  • Do not hesitate when it comes to escaping.
  • Get objects (like a car) or noise (blow a whistle, yelling, car horn) between you and the assailant. Do whatever is necessary to draw attention to yourself.
  • Hide only if your general location is unknown, there are numerous available options or help is not near.
  • Keep thinking ahead. Re-evaluate your plan as needed.
  • Your best weapons are your awareness and a good tactical presentation.

Self-Defense Law

Requirements To Obtain A Concealed Pistol Permit

Pistol Free Areas

Carrying Under The Influence

If you are able to learn self-defense skills (martial arts, contacting your local police department to inquire about local places that teach this training, other) by all means, get the training. Learning and practicing self-defense skills helps improve your confidence so you can develop a plan to help you escape from dangerous situations.

Be safe!

 

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midevil read my blog
Aug 13, 2008 | 8:17 AM

BY GOD, my spouse is going to take a course to defend herself, and if she doesn't, I'll beat the snot out of her, throw her worthless butt down the steps, and then step on her fingers as I travel out the door to drink beer with my buddies while she gets up, cleans the house, washes the clothes and dishes, feeds the kids, waxes the boat and harley, fixes the roof on SuperStupid's pink and white trailer house that sits up on blocks and has no windows, and then cleans up, has a hot plate of food waiting while I bring home my new girlfriend to massage my aching muscles......???

former_detroiter read my blog view my photos
Aug 13, 2008 | 12:47 PM

Great post Stooltime and midevil......well....we always knew you were a gentleman. ( passes mid`s spouse money for self defense course under the table )

StooltimeCounseling read my blog view my photos
Aug 13, 2008 | 2:31 PM

OMG, Midevil. The only things you left out were that you married someone with a flat head, no teeth and whose father owns a liquor store. (Just kidding of course).

midevil read my blog
Aug 13, 2008 | 3:16 PM

Who said I didn't marry that "girl" of my dreams? Well, she has 1 tooth, but she's purtier than my mule.

And F_D, I always bring her flowers on my birthday..........

shockhazard read my blog view my photos
Aug 13, 2008 | 7:11 PM

Great post !!!!

StooltimeCounseling read my blog view my photos
Aug 13, 2008 | 10:40 PM

Thanks, Former Detroiter and Shock!

MidEvil, You're too funny, even on serious issues. I like your sense of humor.

colt19112 read my blog view my photos
Aug 13, 2008 | 11:36 PM

funny we left out ccw!!!! as a means of self defence

StooltimeCounseling read my blog view my photos
Aug 14, 2008 | 8:43 AM

Hi, Colt.
The two officers only provided the links I listed on this post. Your point is well taken. Do you know the URL of the CCW link?

colt19112 read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 2:06 AM

Of course they did. Like most they feel they should be the only ones allowed to carry a weapon for self defence. it is well noted in the fight for the rights of the people of this and other states the police have always been in the fight to prevent the people their rights to self defence.

shockhazard read my blog view my photos
Aug 15, 2008 | 12:27 PM

When police fear the citizens , you have freedom !
When the citizens fear the police , you have tyrrany !

StooltimeCounseling read my blog view my photos
Aug 16, 2008 | 10:16 AM

Perhaps I need an education here. What is the difference between a pistol permit and a CCW permit? Is it the size of the pistol? Is it the circumference of the barrel? Since when does size matter? Circumference, on the other hand, does matter, I believe.

I have no beef against the two officers who presented their information to the group. The information I heard, and the practice sparring we did, helped reinforce what I learned years ago when I learned martial arts skills.

Here's my take on the Martial Arts:

http://stooltimecounseling.blogspot.com/2007/02/finding
-your-mojo-at-dojo.html

STC.

shockhazard read my blog view my photos
Aug 18, 2008 | 1:50 PM

There is a purchase permit , and there is a carry permit [ ccw , meaning carry concealed weapons ] .A ccw allows you to carry a firearm [ many rules to follow ] that has been legaly purcgased and registered .
Martial arts should be mandated before a second language in schools . [ Hey , just watch a Segal movie } .
Martial arts [ no matter what kind ] , will teach you how to keep your witts under adverse situations . [ Hey , if you know you are about to die , make sure the guy/gal that kills you , is found lying right next to you . Don't go out alone .

StooltimeCounseling read my blog view my photos
Aug 18, 2008 | 9:36 PM

Thanks, Shock. By the way, I'm still waiting to hear back from you from earlier this year when I extended the invitation to meet you at Dimitri's (23 mile and Gratiot) for a cup of coffee. I'm buying!

shockhazard read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 1:07 PM

We'll get together soon . I have to run someone down to childrens hospital today . Maby tommorrow sometime ?

StooltimeCounseling read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 6:14 PM

What about on Monday sometime or any Monday? I don't work on Mondays.

shockhazard read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 7:59 PM

Monday sounds good to me so far . You can just e-mail me at shockhazard@sbcglobal.net . Give me the best time ,for you , and , we'll do nog !

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StooltimeCounseling

Good day! My name is Mark Rogers. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Sports Counselor, Diplomate. I also work on the Human Development Steering Committee and Public Relations Committee with the Statue Of Responsibility Foundation. Google, "Stooltime Counseling", to go to my website, where you can read a number of self-help articles I have written.

Member Since: 5/20/2007